Five Bible Verses for when you are struggling with contentment

Five Bible Verses for when you are struggling with contentment at as a stay at home mom | Click through to read if you feel like you are always stuck in the same old cycle of life. If you feel inadequate, less-than, and discontent as a mom, this is for you!
Five Bible Verses for when you are struggling with contentment at as a stay at home mom | Click through to read if you feel like you are always stuck in the same old cycle of life. If you feel inadequate, less-than, and discontent as a mom, this is for you!

I’ve been struggling with contentment as a stay-at-home mom for a little bit now. I have had my fair share of feeling inadequate, less-than, unworthy, and feeling unsatisfied with the role I play in our home. I like to search for bible verses to help me when I’m feeling this way, so I thought I would share a few of them with you today.

Day in and day out we wake up, care for our kids, clean up messes multiple times, and fix meals.  We chauffeur kids to practices and playdates, shop for groceries with little arms reaching for everything in sight, and manage our home with little to nothing to show in return for all of our hard exhausting work.

Struggling with contentment is something every stay-at-home mom deals with at least once in her season of being a homemaker.

We always have a deep desire of wanting more for ourselves and our family. Yet, for me anyway, the realities of being a one income home and wanting to be a good steward of what my husband works so tirelessly for, and what the Lord has blessed us with, leaves me shoving those desires under the rug more times than not.

I often seek the Lord when I’m struggling with contentment, usually when I’m feeling at my lowest. But something I am working on in my own spiritual journey is seeking Him even when I’m feeling like everything’s okay. By learning to seek His promises over my life, within different bible verses, BEFORE I start to fall into the trap of inadequacy, comparison, and discontentment, it allows me the opportunity to correct my feelings before they start and stay focused on what the Lord wants me to focus on in this season of motherhood.

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How to develop the wise woman within yourself

How to develop the wise woman within yourself | God has given me grace. Enough grace to cover all of that ridiculousness, and replace all of my foolish moments with His love. Slowly but surely, He’s helped me rebuild my home and reestablish myself as a wise woman. // Click through to read if you're looking for encouragement, compassion, direction, and purpose! Freebies included!
How to develop the wise woman within yourself | God has given me grace. Enough grace to cover all of that ridiculousness, and replace all of my foolish moments with His love. Slowly but surely, He’s helped me rebuild my home and reestablish myself as a wise woman. // Click through to read if you're looking for encouragement, compassion, direction, and purpose! Freebies included!

You know that old saying that every wise woman in your life would share with you growing up?

If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.

How the heck do you apply that to motherhood?!

I often feel like I’m beating myself up over how I’ve spoken to my family in the past 12 hours. I mean, sometimes you just get so frustrated about repeating the same chore multiple times a day, that eventually all of your built-up frustration has nowhere to go but directly into the ears of, even your smallest, family members. amiright?

It takes a wise woman of amazing patience to apply that saying to her everyday life, every. single. day. And patience is the virtue that is super hard to come by when you’re a mom.

Wise woman kinda mom or not.

In every good or bad situation there is truth.

That truth being the only thing anyone can 100% rely on, the Word of the Lord. When someone wrongs me and I don’t know how to handle it, I look to the Bible to give me direction. When I’m feeling sad, or lonely, or upset, I look to the Bible for help.

It’s not that I’m a “wise woman” and that’s why I go straight to the source of truth that only seeks to help me. It’s just that I’m kind of over being stuck in, what seems like, a never ending cycle where I seek “truth” from people or things.

They’re never prepared to handle the weight of the storm of feelings I tend to carry around with me.

When I’m feeling less like a wise woman, I’ve made the decision to seek guidance from the One who created me.

I mean, He does know me best. When I look for direction in the Bible, God speaks to me every time. God speaks to me through the promises that He’s already written over my life.

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Love conquers all

Do we teach our kids to run from fear? Or run towards it? This is for the mom who wants to be the example of love for her kids in a world that is evil. Click through to read this incredible post by Shela Yount!

This is for the mom who is tired of seeing bad news all over social media. It’s for the mom who wants their kids to know that hatred and violence is unacceptable. This blog, that probably won’t reach very many people, is for the mom who just doesn’t get why we can’t all just LOVE.

And if you’re not a mom… Well, it’s for you too!

It’s been a MINUTE since I’ve posted a blog. Truthfully, it became more of a job for me than a passion and I never wanted it to be like that. I started this blog to speak truth, encouragement, and hope for moms and wives out there who may come across it. I don’t wish to fill this space with meaningless letters, it’s worth so much more than that.

So that’s why I’ve decided to sit down for a few minutes today and share my heart with you.

Last week, my family had the opportunity to participate in #LOVEweek2016 – and now more than any other time in my four years of LOVE Week-ing, do I realize the weight of my participation during LOVE Week. In the past few weeks, we’ve seen horrible shootings that sincerely shook me. I’m very much a “hide it so I can pretend it’s not there” kinda girl, but how can I pretend that evil isn’t there. Evil has been present since the beginning of time. Even in the perfect Garden God created for us to spend eternity walking and talking with him, evil was there.

Fear keeps me from clicking on certain news stories, sharing certain posts, and going certain places.

But as a mom, do I want to teach my children that it’s okay to live in fear?

1 John 4:18 tells me that Perfect Love drives out fear. Jesus is that perfect love, and He lives within me. My heart isn’t big enough for Jesus to have a condo next to fear… it’s just not. So I’m working really hard to ignore the evil that plants the seed of fear in my life. However, sadly, I can’t ignore that my brothers and my sisters of every color are being attacked so that I feel a little more at ease when I’m taking a trip to Target.

I know I’m probably jumping all over the place, but my main point is…

The evil has to stop somewhere, why not with me?

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4 habits of a great mom to help you discover and embrace your calling

4 Habits of a Great Mom | Ask me if I'm a great mom and I'll say "YES!" every time... Here are four ways you can be confident in saying YES to being a great mom too! >> Click through to read this article by @ShelaYount

Anyone with children can be a mom, but my question today is: What makes a great mom?

Surely a great mom is a woman who puts her children above herself, her husband is always at the top, her house is always clean, no one knows what dirty laundry is because they always have clean laundry when they go to get dressed, she always prepares a delicious meal with a phenomenal dessert, stories are always read, diapers are never wet, kids are always clean and well-behaved, she’s envied by many because she rocks a super clean mom-van, and other moms always look up to her for advice.

But, in what reality does this lady live?
Certainly not mine…

My husband gets dealt a good hand every once in awhile, but let’s face it… With kids in the house, he’s often the first to be put on the back burner.  The house is only clean when someone’s on their way over, laundry is never ending (and mostly done by my husband), and everyone fends for themselves when it comes to food.  Don’t even get me started on stories… those only happen in the form of a movie.  We sometimes forget showers, my kids still whine and pout in public, and the car is always packed full.

But ask me if I’m a great mom…
I’ll say “YES!” every-time.

I want you to have the confidence to claim that you are a great mom too!

You don’t have to have anything put together or organized or spotless to be considered a great mom. Great moms simply make sure their kids are loved-well on a daily basis. In addition to that, great moms also have four habits to make sure they can keep up their great mom status, effortlessly.

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7 things that inspired me to be thankful this week

Welcome to September everyone!

We’ve officially experienced one full day of the first “Fall month” of the season. I don’t know about you, but the rain and cooler weather that perfectly crept it’s way into the Carolina’s yesterday (and today) got me in the Fall mood quick! So much so, that I woke up singing “Burn” by Usher…

Okay, so I don’t know how that relates to Fall… Perhaps a campfire?

Seriously though, I sat down at my computer and started thinking about this season we’re entering. I wrote about seasons earlier this week, seasons of life. But today I’m talking about the season of Fall and how it captivates my spirit with it’s coolness and pretty colors!

Furthermore, Fall inspires me to have this overwhelming feeling of thankfulness.
Does it do that to you as well?

So, as I sat down on this dreary, cool, September morning, with my window open and my pumpkin spice coffee; my intention was NOT to write a blog post, but I became submerged into this feeling of being Thankful and decided that I would complete a Thankful blog post to share with you!

I am really thankful that you take the time to come over and read what I share with you when I share it. Since the beginning of 2016, you know my passion for I Answer to Mom is to provide meaningful and encouraging content to inspire you and help you through life when you are struggling with some of the things that I may have been through.

So I hope that as you read this, you consider taking this challenge with me!

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Do good

I’ve got a gift for you at the end of this post, it will help you do good.

Hey Friends! I’ve got a question for you this week… Since when is holding a kid when they want to be held considered bad parenting?

As parents, we all have this feeling of entitlement when it comes to our kids, I mean… we DID agree to raise them and be their parents for the rest of our lives. But sometimes, we are very quick to turn on another parent because their way of parenting is different from ours. This has to stop! No parent should have to feel less-than because they chose to bed-share with their kids. Nor should any parent have to feel hesitant when answering the simple question, “why is your baby still waking up during the night?” That parent should feel proud to say that her 15 month old still wakes up briefly at night because she’s still honored to have the opportunity to nurse him at night. Since when does becoming a parent, give you the right to question another parent’s choices?

DO GOOD | Ever been hurt by someone? Do you want to immediately get revenge or are you quick to forgive? This post from ianswertomom.com will help you focus on treating others the way you want to be treated, regardless of how they are treating you. Click through to read my thoughts about doing good to everyone, simply because everyone is worth doing good to. Plus! Grab your FREE iPhone wallpaper so you can get your mind set on doing good!

This isn’t a bashing post, an angry post, or a trying-to-solve-world-peace post.

Simply, it’s a personal response to how I’ve witnessed parents (new and old) treating other parents.

Here’s a small story about me. I’m a very cuddly mommy. I love when my kids want to snuggle, I love when they sleep next to me, I love when they want me over anyone else. It’s the small part of motherhood that I am pretty much obsessed with. My son has taken approximately 2,330 naps in his lifetime… (I estimated). I can probably count on one hand how many of those naps he has been laid down for. Excluding the naps he’s taken in the car, I have allowed him to nap on me for all of his life. I’ve been told multiple times that I am “spoiling” him and/or not parenting him right. I’ve even been told that I will regret all of the hours I have “wasted” holding him when I could be doing other things.

Looking back over the 15 months I have been blessed with the opportunity to be his mom, I can’t think of even ONE time that I’ve regretted holding him while he slept. There has been plenty of times I’ve updated my blog with one hand, attempted to sweep the floor with one hand, folded the laundry while balancing him just right on my arm and shoulder… but never a time that I regret not making him take naps in his bed from early on. I know that one day he’s going to curl up on a pillow on the couch and shut his eyes; and on that day I will probably just sit next to him and smile while he naps. But until that day gets here, there is nothing that takes priority more than giving my sweet boy a feeling of love, comfort, and safety while he naps.

Regardless of how much the bathroom needs to be cleaned.

I’m sharing this story about me to hopefully encourage another mom to stand up for HER way of parenting. There is no set way to be a great mommy to a child. I realize this, and I also realize that other moms will make different decisions than I do about letting their kids nap on them, sleep with them, or have a set schedule of weaning from nursing. Because I have personally experienced feeling inadequate, judged, and less-than as a mom, I would never make another mom feel that way simply because her views differ from mine; and THAT’S my entire point of this post today.

Like I said, it’s not bashing or written in anger, it’s simply (hopefully) written to encourage the mom who needs a little boost that she IS doing things correctly, her mom-o-meter is working just fine, and as long as she’s making her choices out of love and safety for her baby, she. is. a. great. mom.

Galations 6:9-10 says, “So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up. Therefore, whenever we have the opportunity, we should do good to everyone—especially to those in the family of faith.

Being a mommy is hard work, but raising world changers is the harvest of a lifetime.

Let’s encourage other moms instead of being quick to judge them.

Let’s speak highly of the way they choose to love on their kids; whatever that looks like.

Let’s seize every opportunity to do good to everyone because everyone is worth doing good to.

I want to help you do good!

I created a pretty sweet iPhone wallpaper for you! I’ve been using it; and everytime I check my phone it reminds me to be intentional about doing good to everyone… no. matter. what. ENJOY!

Becoming courageous

This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.Joshua 1:9

Hey friends! I am excited about writing to you this week! This weekend at church was pretty incredible. My Pastor, Steven Furtick, was talking about Joshua this weekend. His entire sermon was talking about courage and how God has given us such a huge vocabulary of faith, yet we still find ourselves speaking discouragement over our lives. This really hit home for me as a mom, so I thought I would share my thoughts with you, because more than likely, you have probably felt the same way. So I’m just going to jump right in!

Pastor Steven based his message off of Joshua 1:6-9. Verse nine is actually my husband’s favorite verse, it’s such a great one to recall when you are feeling afraid or stuck.

“This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.””
‭‭Joshua‬ ‭1:9‬ ‭NLT‬‬

I’ve heard and recited this verse so many times, but here I am, sitting in church, and realizing (through the help of Pastor Steven) that I am already courageous. God has placed a calling and a purpose on each one of our lives and the fact that I doubt myself and walk around feeling defeated because I compare myself to other moms and other wives is evidence that I’m not living up to my fullest potential.

I can’t underestimate the power of my own encouragement. As moms and wives, we play a huge role in our family’s happiness. Remember the saying, “When mom’s happy, everyone’s happy” ? It’s true! I have a lot of responsibilities in my family, especially because my husband sacrifices his time with us so that I have the opportunity to stay home with our kids during the day. But I have noticed, on days when my vibe isn’t as great as it could or should be, my whole family is a wreck. Sassy-ness, bad attitudes, complaining, and ungratefulness comes out of every direction and surrounds our home so fast it’s ridiculous! Now, honestly, there are times we just wake up on the wrong side of the bed, but on the days our home is pretty much turned upside-down, I can almost always trace it back to a moment of weakness I had that morning.

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Daddy may be head of the household, but mommy is head of the emotional household; and that’s a pretty big responsibility. From setting the tone for the day based on how we wake our kids up in the morning, to encouraging our kids after they’ve been mistreated by a friend; to pointing out their strengths during homework time, and finally making sure they feel loved during the bedtime routine. Moms pretty much take care of all the emotional needs in the home.

I say all of that, to say this… We have to start speaking positivity over our self, our home, and our family!

If we walk around feeling defeated because this is pudgy, that’s not big enough, this isn’t the right color, etc. then we will never be in the right mindset to encourage our family. Soon, our kids will pick up on our negativity and began to think they aren’t smart enough to finish that assignment, they aren’t pretty enough to talk to that boy, they aren’t fit enough to try out for that team, and before you know it, you’ve handed down a big slice of [negative] Nancy’s pie to your entire family and the cycle of feeling inadequate and weak will continue and continue.

God has placed a courage so amazing inside of us that we can’t even imagine how great it is! It’s already there, we just have to discipline ourselves to pull it out when we start to feel like we’re being brought down. Eventually, speaking positively about and to ourselves and our family will become second nature. The purpose God has for you isn’t being just a mom, just a wife, just a friend, you are meant for so much more than the just.

Pastor Steven ended with telling us what he likes to tell himself from time to time, “Christ is in me; I am enough”.

My word for the year is enough. So when he said this, I was immediately reminded that God has a plan for me. I am enough. So my challenge for you this week is to mutter these words every day, multiple times a day.

Feeling discouraged?
Christ is in you; You are enough.

Feeling helpless?
Christ is in you; You are enough.

Feeling inadequate?
Christ is in you; You are enough.

Feeling just?
Christ is in you; You are enough.

Build up your self-esteem and then pass it along to your kids this week. You are a strong woman. How do I know? Because I know that every mom is, every daughter is, every wife is. I’m sure you fit into one of those categories!

My husband used to tell me, when we first started dating, that I am worth more than I know… You know what? I’m starting to believe that, four and a half years later… So I wanted to tell you the same:

You are worth more than you know.

Don’t waste your life with negativity and discouragement. Be strong and courageous… God is with you, whenever, wherever. Period.

Have an awesome week!

Ps. Check out the sermon from Pastor Steven { h e r e } !