4 habits of a great mom to help you discover and embrace your calling

4 Habits of a Great Mom | Ask me if I'm a great mom and I'll say "YES!" every time... Here are four ways you can be confident in saying YES to being a great mom too! >> Click through to read this article by @ShelaYount

Anyone with children can be a mom, but my question today is: What makes a great mom?

Surely a great mom is a woman who puts her children above herself, her husband is always at the top, her house is always clean, no one knows what dirty laundry is because they always have clean laundry when they go to get dressed, she always prepares a delicious meal with a phenomenal dessert, stories are always read, diapers are never wet, kids are always clean and well-behaved, she’s envied by many because she rocks a super clean mom-van, and other moms always look up to her for advice.

But, in what reality does this lady live?
Certainly not mine…

My husband gets dealt a good hand every once in awhile, but let’s face it… With kids in the house, he’s often the first to be put on the back burner.  The house is only clean when someone’s on their way over, laundry is never ending (and mostly done by my husband), and everyone fends for themselves when it comes to food.  Don’t even get me started on stories… those only happen in the form of a movie.  We sometimes forget showers, my kids still whine and pout in public, and the car is always packed full.

But ask me if I’m a great mom…
I’ll say “YES!” every-time.

I want you to have the confidence to claim that you are a great mom too!

You don’t have to have anything put together or organized or spotless to be considered a great mom. Great moms simply make sure their kids are loved-well on a daily basis. In addition to that, great moms also have four habits to make sure they can keep up their great mom status, effortlessly.

1 | Great moms make time for themselves

Being happy has to start with you. A mom is the emotional cornerstone in the home. Start by scheduling a time, even if it’s only 30 minutes, each week to do something you love.  Lock yourself in the bathroom and read a book, go to the grocery store alone, get your nails done.

By having this time of sanity, you’ll come back refreshed and ready to tackle your family needs with a new attitude. Because, in a family with demanding schedules, you made time for yourself too!

 

2 | Great moms have friends who are great moms

No one likes doing life alone. Am I right?

Why should you keep all of the mom duties to yourself? Our responsibilities as moms never disappear, but that doesn’t mean you should have to do them by yourself every day.

Find another great mom and set up a time together to take all the kids to the park. You can both help each other by providing adult conversation, advice, and accountability. This is also a really great way to keep your sanity. 🙂

3 | Great moms accept help

When your husband helps out by folding the towels, don’t get upset because he’s folding them wrong and try to correct it (#guilty). Instead, forget about it.

Towels will be unfolded and dirty again before you know it and then YOU can wash, dry, and fold them to your hearts content.

Appreciate his effort and be thankful that’s one thing you can mark off your to-do list!

4 | Great moms never compare themselves to other great moms

My Pastor once said “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel”.

When I see a mom in the grocery store with well-behaved kids, not asking for anything, and helping put things in the cart that is actually on the shopping list, I just cringe inside…

what am I doing wrong?
why don’t my kids behave in the grocery store?
when will I ever be a good mom with the perfect family?

When in reality, she probably just finished yelling at her kids in the car or whispering reminders of their punishment for acting out in public, should they dare to do so.

Then I have to ask myself…
Do I really want to be like that mom anyway?
Do I really want to compare what I see in my life with other moms when I only see a few seconds of their life? 
Are perfect-angel kids really worth the extra yelling and constant threats of punishment?

Mama, obviously you clicked on this post for a reason. You are searching and searching for a way to give up the struggle and embrace the mom you have been called to be.

I’m here to tell you.
You have been called to be a great mom.

Drop the guilt. Stop the comparisons. Love your kids with your entire being.
And remember, you can be a wife, a friend, a sister, a daughter, a blogger…
AND a great mom!

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  2. I love this. Especially the don’t compare part and the taking time for yourself. When you become a mom you seem to lose yourself within your kids. You have to stick to who you are and don’t forget that what you want and need matters too. Its hard but taking those moments for yourself can help your sanity later!

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  5. What a brilliant little post! I love it – I think it’s so important to make time for yourself, surround yourself with other supportive mommas, and not compare. The comparison game is a dangerous one : )

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  6. “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel”. I love this quote so much! It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the facade of other family’s ‘perfect’ lives, but we have no clue what goes on behind the scenes!

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  7. It took me a long time to realize that I needed help… and I am a WAY better mom for it. Finding a regular caregiver is now a must for my Sanity Plan 🙂

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      I bet, Sara! I love having a few minutes to myself to shower, just sit and read, or just lay down without little monsters crawling on top of me. 🙂 I wouldn’t change it for the world, I love being a mom, but you are right… It’s all of the sake of sanity! 🙂

  8. Yes!! We’re all great moms! Someone may seem to have it more together than us, but I think we all have our own strengths.

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  9. #4 is definitely my favorite because I am a firm believer of comparison is the thief of joy. And when I begin tocompare myself to other moms or my kids to other kids I have to quickly correct myself.

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  10. I absolutely love this! Especially making time for ourselves because Lord knows moms always put ourselves last! And I love mommy friends, both real and “virtual”. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

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  11. These are such good tips, especially the one about comparing yourself. It bogs me down every single day when I see other moms, and think, they have it all figured out and I don’t! Thanks for sharing!

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  12. So true, it’s easy to compare and easy to list our own faults…. but for all of us, mommin ain’t easy! Even through the things I do right and the things I’m not so proud of, I love my family fiercely, and that makes me a great mom. Great post!

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