Anyone with children can be a mom, but my question today is: What makes a great mom?
Surely a great mom is a woman who puts her children above herself, her husband is always at the top, her house is always clean, no one knows what dirty laundry is because they always have clean laundry when they go to get dressed, she always prepares a delicious meal with a phenomenal dessert, stories are always read, diapers are never wet, kids are always clean and well-behaved, she’s envied by many because she rocks a super clean mom-van, and other moms always look up to her for advice.
But, in what reality does this lady live?
Certainly not mine…
My husband gets dealt a good hand every once in awhile, but let’s face it… With kids in the house, he’s often the first to be put on the back burner. The house is only clean when someone’s on their way over, laundry is never ending (and mostly done by my husband), and everyone fends for themselves when it comes to food. Don’t even get me started on stories… those only happen in the form of a movie. We sometimes forget showers, my kids still whine and pout in public, and the car is always packed full.
But ask me if I’m a great mom…
I’ll say “YES!” every-time.
I want you to have the confidence to claim that you are a great mom too!
You don’t have to have anything put together or organized or spotless to be considered a great mom. Great moms simply make sure their kids are loved-well on a daily basis. In addition to that, great moms also have four habits to make sure they can keep up their great mom status, effortlessly.
1 | Great moms make time for themselves
Being happy has to start with you. A mom is the emotional cornerstone in the home. Start by scheduling a time, even if it’s only 30 minutes, each week to do something you love. Lock yourself in the bathroom and read a book, go to the grocery store alone, get your nails done.
By having this time of sanity, you’ll come back refreshed and ready to tackle your family needs with a new attitude. Because, in a family with demanding schedules, you made time for yourself too!
2 | Great moms have friends who are great moms
No one likes doing life alone. Am I right?
Why should you keep all of the mom duties to yourself? Our responsibilities as moms never disappear, but that doesn’t mean you should have to do them by yourself every day.
Find another great mom and set up a time together to take all the kids to the park. You can both help each other by providing adult conversation, advice, and accountability. This is also a really great way to keep your sanity. 🙂
3 | Great moms accept help
When your husband helps out by folding the towels, don’t get upset because he’s folding them wrong and try to correct it (#guilty). Instead, forget about it.
Towels will be unfolded and dirty again before you know it and then YOU can wash, dry, and fold them to your hearts content.
Appreciate his effort and be thankful that’s one thing you can mark off your to-do list!
4 | Great moms never compare themselves to other great moms
When I see a mom in the grocery store with well-behaved kids, not asking for anything, and helping put things in the cart that is actually on the shopping list, I just cringe inside…
what am I doing wrong?
why don’t my kids behave in the grocery store?
when will I ever be a good mom with the perfect family?
When in reality, she probably just finished yelling at her kids in the car or whispering reminders of their punishment for acting out in public, should they dare to do so.
Then I have to ask myself…
Do I really want to be like that mom anyway?
Do I really want to compare what I see in my life with other moms when I only see a few seconds of their life?
Are perfect-angel kids really worth the extra yelling and constant threats of punishment?
Mama, obviously you clicked on this post for a reason. You are searching and searching for a way to give up the struggle and embrace the mom you have been called to be.